Money Dates: The Self-Care Ritual That Changed My Financial Life
When you think of self-care, you probably picture bubble baths, quiet mornings with coffee, or maybe even a solo beach walk. But what if I told you one of the most powerful self-care practices you can adopt has nothing to do with candles or crystals and everything to do with your bank account?
I’m talking about Money Dates.
This one simple ritual completely transformed my relationship with money. It took me from avoiding my finances (because ugh, too overwhelming) to feeling calm, clear, and even excited to sit down with my money.
In this post, I’m going to share:
What a Money Date actually is (and why it’s NOT just “budgeting”)
The emotional & financial benefits you’ll feel
How to create your own Money Date ritual (without dread or guilt)
Plus — why this simple habit can shift your entire financial future
What is a Money Date (Really)?
A Money Date is an intentional, regular check-in with your finances, but it’s done with love, care, and respect for yourself.
It’s not about spreadsheets or being “good with money.”
It’s about creating a calm, safe space to connect with your money, reflect on what’s working, and gently course-correct where needed.
Think of it like catching up with an old friend you’ve been avoiding, once you sit down and actually talk, the anxiety fades, and you wonder why you didn’t do it sooner.
Why Money Dates Are the Self-Care You Didn’t Know You Needed
For years, I thought my money stress would go away if I just earned more.
Spoiler alert: it didn’t.
What finally shifted things was changing the way I engaged with my money.
Here’s what happened when I started doing weekly Money Dates:
I stopped feeling blindsided by unexpected bills
I felt in control (even when things were tight)
My spending aligned more with my values not my emotions
I replaced money guilt with gratitude and clarity
Most importantly, I stopped being scared to look at my bank account
Money Dates turned my finances from a source of stress into a practice of self-respect.
How to Create Your Own Money Date Ritual
You don’t need hours, fancy tools, or a finance degree.
You just need a little intention.
Here’s how to start:
Step 1: Set the Scene
Create an environment that feels calm and supportive. Light a candle, pour a cup of tea, put on your favorite playlist — anything that makes it feel like a treat, not a chore.
Step 2: Reflect & Review
Look over your bank accounts, bills, and spending for the week. No shame, no judgment. Just curiosity.
Ask yourself:
What felt good about my spending this week?
What felt out of alignment?
Are there any upcoming expenses I need to prepare for?
Step 3: Align with Your Goals
Check in with your financial goals (big or small). Are your current actions supporting the life you want to create? If not, where can you make small tweaks for the week ahead? Map out your Spending Plan for the week ahead.
Step 4: Gratitude & Reset
Finish with gratitude for the money you do have, for your progress, for your growing awareness. This simple mindset shift is powerful.
The Compound Effect of Money Dates
One Money Date won’t fix everything.
But over time, this ritual rewires your relationship with money.
It’s not about perfection. It’s about presence.
When you consistently show up for your finances in this loving, intentional way, you:
Build financial resilience
Reduce emotional spending
Stay aligned with your goals
And most importantly, create a sense of peace around money
Ready to Create Your Own Money Date Ritual?
To make it easy for you, I’ve created the Money Date Toolkit a beautifully designed printable bundle with prompts, checklists, and templates to guide your very own ritual.
It’s like having me sit beside you, making money dates feel light, easy, and even enjoyable.
[Grab your Money Date Toolkit here for just $19.95]
You deserve a relationship with money that feels safe, supportive, and aligned.
It all starts with this one small, powerful habit.
Next Steps…
You don’t have to do this alone. If you’re ready to take your financial journey to the next level, I’ve created tools that can help you get started today, These tools are designed to keep you on track, help you refocus when needed, and empower you to take control of your financial future.
The Money Bliss Cashflow Method Cheatsheet: Your quick-start guide to organising your finances in a balanced and stress-free way.
Financial Daily Check-In Notepad: The tool that will help you connect with your money every day, making tracking and managing finances a breeze.
10 Day Financial Reset Mini-Course: A no-fluff course designed to help you reset, refocus, and rebuild a solid financial foundation in just 10 days.
Every action you take today brings you closer to the financial peace and freedom you desire.
